It has been quite a long time but I often recall the moving moment.
It was a hot afternoon in KL, Malaysia, during my practicum in palliative care. I went to visit a 36-years old female patient with HIV and ovary cancer with palliative nurse Loey from Hospis Malaysia. The patient had worked as a 'public relation girl' before, actually a prostitute! It was a long drive. When we arrived, it was amazing to find out her boy friend staying with her. She told us he'd been with her for 10 years, and at that time he was taking care of her very well, even gave her money to support her parents. She looked really awful, with an obvious protuberance in her right lower abdomen. But he was taking care of her quite well, at the risk of being infected. He went for check for HIV 3 times and lucky to be negative.

I was overwhelmingly touched by the couple. Maybe they could not be called a couple as they'd never been married. However, I could feel their real love without marriage. Some people around me has been seeking for marriage hard, supposed to get security or fortune from that. But it seems she could unlikely get any, even marriage. There is also somebody escaped from marriage because his fiancee was diagnosed cancer and was on chemotherapy. Marriage doesn't mean love and security definitely, though the three are usually closly related to each other. Love is to devote for each other, to cook for each other, to live for eath other.

We all have our foreordination: someone is destined to seek love, some escape, and some enjoy.